My adventures in dating... Part 4

So things have been going great!  Mr. D and I decided (tho I thought it was already decided) that we would take things slow and wait to see how thing progress on their own, naturally.  This is good news for me -but I think I'm past just wanting to be friends!

Anyway, Mr. D had last Friday night off (his kids were suppose to come for a visit but didn't) so he had the day free to do nothing -- He ended up going fishing and grilling out.  Since he's been working 12 hr shifts for the last couple of weeks with no days off, this was such a wonderful afternoon for him!  So that evening he calls me at around 11pm and we chat the entire night!  Around 5:30am his battery went dead and he had to move back to the bedroom area where the charger was (no signal back there) so we kept the conversation going until roughly 10 am by text!  We talked about everything, mostly about nothing special.  It was sooo nice.

Towards the 5:30 am mark he says to me "I think we need to talk." O'crap what now I think.  This is when the bad news happens, right?  Man, and I really liked him too! So I say "ok, what about." He goes on to tell me "I really like you" and I say, "Yea, me too" He says "no, I really like you"  Wow! sent me over the moon! So we go on to chat a little more about this and he says to me "I don't want to hurt anyone or make another wrong decision."  We go on and talk a little more about this and really what it comes down to is this....

Mr. D and I have met for all of 8 hours (if that) -all rolled into one weekend .  That doesn't offer a lot of time to see how compatible we actually are together.  O' sure, we talk all the time, we know we agree on the big issues, and even most of the small issues.  We know we definitely have chemistry but do we get along regarding the normal every day things like -dating? How does he react to someone cutting him off in traffic or having to wait for a table -- normal things!  It's almost like Internet Dating, he and I and just because you are great via phone -doesn't mean you will be in person, right?!?!

But there is good news... His job is ending this week so with this in mind I say "since your job is ending sooner then originally thought, why not come for a visit, maybe stay a day or two (at a hotel!) and we'll see how things go."  To which he AGREES!  He should be here towards the end of the week.  I'm so excited!

An actual date, like with  dinner, possibly a movie -it's too hot to hang out at the park and he doesn't drink coffee!  What kind of person doesn't drink coffee!?!?!  If you have any other "out of the house" suggestions for a date, please leave a message!!

Till next time.

My adventures in dating... Part 3

Well, it must not have been as bad as I thought.  He texted last night around 5pm and we've been texting ever since -- feeling back to normal.  I had a few plans for the night as well, so I'm sure that helped me keep my mind not so focused on Mr. D. and I'm trying to keep busy/ier with Sophie being gone as well. In fact this weekend, I'm thinking of getting another tattoo -just a small one on my finger and I've started doing a few exercises.  I figure if I'm gonna find a man, whether it's Mr. D or not, I wanna look good doing it!!!

Back to Mr. D - I was happy to get his text last night.  Yesterday was so awful for me.  I was happy to know I didn't scare him off so easily, happy to know he really does like me, and happy to know that maybe there is something here after all. 

We chatted most of the night (I am so tired today!) and for a short while this morning.  He's sleeping now and has quiet a bit going on this afternoon, but we communicated about it and so hopefully my mind won't be running rampage over me.
 
On another note - I got a new phone!!  A Blackberry Torch.  Texting was getting so hard with my Samsung.  Before, I would lose connection, have to move toward a window, or worse, sit outside to chat by text or even to place a phone call.  And let me just say, sitting outside at midnight texting is no fun!  Thanks goodness for my dogs to keep me company out there!  The Torch has been a blessing so far... I love everything about!

More updates to come.... I promise I won't leave you hangin on this one... Bye for now.

My adventures in dating... Part 2

Well here it is three days since and I've screwed everything up!  Why do girls do this, I do not know!!  I've explained to Mr. D. before that this was new to me, that it had been a while since my last dating experience, that I needed to take things slow, that I've not had a "grown-up" relationship before... but how can you stop your brain from telling you lies and feeding off your insecurities!?!?!  You can't, that's what I've decided.  I've tried -it doesn't work well for me.  I'm told this is normal and that every girl goes through this -some better than others. I clearly fall short here.

See, before we met  -he was quick to respond to my texts or phone calls. He was quick to make me laugh or to send me a simple "HI" but now, now that we've met -things aren't so quick.  We chatted Sunday on my drive home until I made it to the main highway and we've chatted every night since -but it's been very different, you can feel a distance -- Why?  What happened?  Was it me?  Was I not what he thought I'd be?  Is he regretting talking with me, with meeting me?  Stupid questions that won't stop!!  Might I add that it doesn't help that Sophie is not at home for a much needed distraction or hug!

Anyway, last night I went on a bit of a rant.  Not too bad, but bad enough to cause damage in a newly beginning relationship.   I tried to explain (by text mind you) that I felt like every time I wanted to talk (by phone), he was busy but rather then tell me he was busy, he just wouldn't answer my texts until a while later -and then still not call, only text. It came across to me as a bit stand offish, like maybe he really was changing his mind about me -which lead to even more insecure feelings, topped with missing Sophie -- never a good combination!  

He didn't communicate that he had gotten something in his eye the other day and needed to see an eye doctor or that he hasn't been able to catch up on his sleep since the weekend, or that work has been crazy busy for him... I didn't know these things bc Mr. D didn't communicate that with me, until after my rant.  I get that he is really tired and probably doing his best with what he has right now but either way, the texts were sent and I screwed up something that could have been...  What must he think of me now?  I know if I were him, I'd be thinking "what in the world have I gotten myself into?"

Oh sure he responded back to my rant with "Jeez you think too much and must not remember anything either" (he's referring to him coming for a visit after the job ends also referring to the fact that he does (or did) really like me too).  Also to follow was "We should wait to see how things develop, to see where they go naturally" -- which I totally get and completely agree with.  BUT why did I have to send those texts!!!  I keep going over them. They were reasonable, and very childish!  I 100% feel like I'm back in high school.  Had he just communicated with me a little better maybe I wouldn't have slipped over to the dark side but that doesn't matter at this point, the damage is done...

Maybe I am destined to be an old maid only to grow old alone with my child taking care of me.  One can only hope I have such a great out come!  Oh, well.  What can I do at this point?  

We did text a few times through out the night, light and simple -the way it should have stayed and I did send one last text this morning, apologizing to Mr. D for ranting on him like that.  He's asleep right now so I haven't heard back from him and to be honest -don't know that I will. 

What am I thankful for out of all of this... Great question.  I'm happy to know that that part of me didn't die, but rather has been reawakened and ready to get back out there and find love again. Not sure how to do this as I hate the dating scene but I want to be married, I want to start a new chapter of my life with someone special -is it with Mr. D., who knows.

To the gym I go!  I have a few loses ends to firm up!!

My adventures in dating... Part 1

I've recently started talking with this guy -a really great guy.  We'll call him Mr. D -for delicious!  Mr. D and I have been talking since the beginning of July, or thereabouts, and things have really progressed well.  We chat on Facebook, text or by phone every day. Our conversations have moved from "how is your day" to "how is your day" and we seem to be quite compatible on a number of important issues like family, marriage, children, etc...  

As things go, we agreed that it was time to meet in person ( we have seen pictures via facebook). After all, we clearly had chemistry by text/phone, it was time to find out if there was something more there as well. (You realize this is huge for me -esp since it's been roughly six, yes I said SIX yrs since my last date!!  I was reelin!)

SIDE NOTE:  The thing about Mr. D. is that he works out of town (alot).  He is currently working nights, which means he's awake when I'm sleeping.  Either way, I had some free time this past weekend with Sophie away visiting Aunt Julie's house (no school/daycare next couple of weeks, needed a sitter) so we decided I would come down for a visit.  Yes, I stayed in a hotel room -of my own.  Get your' mind out of the gutter.

Mr. D is currently working in Baton Rough, LA -an Eight hour drive from here to there.  I left really early Friday to arrive a few hours before he had to go to work that night.  He stopped by the room for an hour or so before and we hit it off right away!  We both agreed that there was defiantly chemistry and that the conversations flowed nicely between us. (I really like this guy!!)

Anyway, we visited each day over the weekend. He'd go to work and then come over to the hotel room in the morning and we'd spend the morning hours chatting, holding hands, even a little kissing.  He'd eventually need to take a nap before heading back to work for the night...  So sweet to miss all that rest for me!!  Did I mention that I really like this guy?  He'd get to work and we'd text all night long and in the morning still have plenty of conversation left. 

MORE TO COME...